{"id":8876,"date":"2017-08-21T04:45:41","date_gmt":"2017-08-21T09:45:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/michaelhyatt.com\/?p=8876"},"modified":"2017-08-21T04:45:41","modified_gmt":"2017-08-21T09:45:41","slug":"introverts-extroverts-get-along","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fullfocus.co\/introverts-extroverts-get-along\/","title":{"rendered":"How Introverts and Extroverts Can Get Along"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sometimes I think that introverts and extroverts are from different planets, and I am not alone in picturing it that way.
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\nQuiet Revolution co-founder Susan Cain calls the distance from introversion to extroversion the \u201csingle most important aspect of personality.\u201d One leading scientist calls it the \u201cnorth and south of temperament.\u201d
\nIn her book Quiet<\/em><\/a>, Cain explains that the introvert-extrovert dynamic \u201cinfluences our choice of friends and mates, and how we make conversation, resolve differences, and show love. It affects the careers we choose and whether or not we succeed at them.\u201d
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The Odd Couple<\/h3>\n

For instance, an introvert and an extrovert can find themselves married to one another or working in the same offices. And if they are not conscious of their differences, watch out.
\nI am speaking from personal experience here. I have been married to my wife Gail for almost 40 years. She is an extrovert. I am an introvert. In the early years of our marriage, this was a source of constant friction<\/a>.
\nFrankly, it\u2019s a miracle we got through it alive and with our marriage still intact.<\/p>\n

Not What You Expected<\/h3>\n

When people think of introverts and extroverts, there are plenty of misconceptions. Many people wrongly assume that I am an extrovert because I became the CEO of a large company and do a lot of public speaking.
\nBut things are not always what they seem. Many leaders I know are introverts. They\u2019ve learned to \u201cturn it on\u201d when they need to, yet are far more comfortable away from the crowds and the lights.<\/p>\n

Different Batteries<\/h3>\n

The real difference between introverts and extroverts is in what energizes us. Ask yourself, \u201cWhere do I get my energy: by being alone or by being with others?\u201d Conversely, you could ask, \u201cWhat drains me?\u201d
\nIntroverts like me are energized by being alone. People drain us. Extroverts like Gail are energized by others. Being alone drains them. There are exceptions. I also enjoy being with people sometimes and she enjoys some time alone. But this is not our dominant mode of renewal.<\/p>\n

A Guide to the Differences<\/h3>\n

To explain the difference in how introverts and extroverts interact with the world, I\u2019ll show you how Gail and I see things differently in 3 broad social areas of life.<\/p>\n

1. Circle of Friends<\/h4>\n