{"id":30922,"date":"2015-09-07T04:45:36","date_gmt":"2015-09-07T09:45:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/michaelhyatt.com\/?p=30922"},"modified":"2015-09-07T04:45:36","modified_gmt":"2015-09-07T09:45:36","slug":"brene-brown-rising-strong","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fullfocus.co\/brene-brown-rising-strong\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Recover When You Blow It Big Time"},"content":{"rendered":"

We all have bad days in business, right? And sometimes they\u2019re beyond just bad. We drop a ball, miss a sale, or hurt a colleague. Suddenly, we\u2019re doubting ourselves, doubting our worth, doubting everything.<\/p>\n\n

My goal-setting course, 5 Days to Your Best Year Ever<\/a><\/em>, is very successful and helps a ton of people every year. During the last launch we decided to do a special edition of the course for leaders.<\/p>\n

We were confident and built our budget assuming it would win big. We invested tens of thousands of dollars into the product and had significant revenue projections. The content was high value, the presentation compelling. And we sold exactly one. Yes, one<\/em>.<\/p>\n

How could we have missed that big? We scurried to fix the messaging, fix the offer, fix whatever we could. Fingers crossed!<\/em> And still nothing. It was one of the biggest duds ever. There wasn\u2019t a hole deep enough for me to crawl into.<\/p>\n

What can we do when we find ourselves in places like this?<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve loved Bren\u00e9 Brown\u2019s work ever since I read The Gifts of Imperfection<\/a><\/em>. I\u2019ve listened to her talks, watched her videos, and read her books. I always find useful insight and revelations in her work about how we as people process the disappointments and difficulties of life.<\/p>\n

Her new book, Rising Strong<\/a><\/em>, is no different. And it can teach us three big lessons about getting past big failures.<\/p>\n

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  1. Recognize it.<\/strong> One of our first responses in the midst of failure is usually denial or some kind of evasion. That\u2019s especially true when we\u2019re hit with a bunch of shame and disappointment. Instead of dealing with those emotions, we compartmentalize.\n

    But people who overcome, says Bren\u00e9, \u201care willing and able to reckon with their emotions.\u201d We have to recognize what the experience of blowing it really means to us. But that\u2019s just the entry point.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

  2. Reframe it.<\/strong> Once we recognize what\u2019s happened and what we\u2019re feeling, we can formulate a more helpful response than the knee-jerk reaction we started with.\n

    Bren\u00e9 tells the story of an advertising executive who bungled a major project. \u201cI am a screwup,\u201d the man first thought. But then he reframed it. It was a simple but major change: \u201cI screwed up.\u201d \u201cThere\u2019s a huge difference\u201d between the two, says Bren\u00e9. One \u201cis basically an indictment of our very existence,\u201d while the other \u201cis an acceptance of our imperfect humanity.\u201d<\/p>\n

    I am a failure<\/em> is different than I failed<\/em>. By reframing the feeling we can do something more productive with our circumstances. The first story is a dead-end, but the second allows us to ask followup questions like: How did I fail? And: How can I avoid that mistake again? By reframing, we can learn, improve, and grow.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n

  3. Rewrite it.<\/strong> Failure comes with its own trajectories. When I experience a few failures, especially if a few come in a wave, I can suddenly see a foreclosure notice in the mailbox and me sleeping under an overpass. It\u2019s like the fear writes the ending of the story for me.\n

    But Bren\u00e9\u2019s process lets us rewrite that ending. \u201cHaving the courage to reckon with our emotions and to rumble with our stories is the path to writing our brave new ending and the path that leads to wholeheartedness,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\t\t